That children learn to take responsibility is simple and complex at the same time. It is a fundamental task of parents to raise their children to take responsibility for their actions and words.
It is a fundamental task of parents to raise their children so that they take responsibility for their actions and words, so that they understand that they carry consequences.
This learning begins -or not- in the most tender childhood, when the mother removes the baby that bit her from the breast, or when the father puts the one-year-old son on the floor who gave him a headbutt while in his arms.
Those little ones, are they aware of what they did? No, they are practicing different behaviors and they are discovering what happens from them, what happens when I mime, when I bite, when I hit, when I scream, when I kiss, when I do "what a nice little hand"?
They discover what happens with their actions, and this leads them to reinforce those that are welcome and abandon those that are not well received by the environment.
Some little ones insist without giving in, seem to need more similar experiences or resist learning about the consequences of their actions:
Sometimes out of rebellion, others do not pay attention or do not listen, or find it difficult to associate their behavior with the result.
We do not get angry with them because they are not clear about what they did, but that does not free them from taking responsibility for the consequences of their behavior:
I spilled the juice and I ran out of juice, I hit my sister and they took me out of the kitchen for a while, etc.
Sometimes it is difficult to impose punishments or penances on the little ones because we see them as unimputable.
That is why I prefer to talk about consequences that, instead, are related to the events that occurred and begin very early in life:
At first speechless; the mother removes the baby that bit her from the breast, her objective is self-protection, but in a few similar episodes the baby already understands that when the mother bites her, she takes him away from that place.
The implicit patterns keep changing, while she had no teeth she bit her but it didn't hurt her and nothing happened, but her teeth show out, her gums hurt and she tries to bite everything that comes her way, including her mother's breast.
►Responsible children New learning experience!
A long journey then begins for the boys to learn to take charge, obviously at each age we will ask them for different things, the four-year-old cannot remember to take his sweater back home but at ten he can already know that if he loses it he will having to buy it with his savings, the two-year-old doesn't hang up his towel, but if the eight-year-old leaves it on the floor, he's going to have to go back to the bathroom to hang it up.
That way they learn to take responsibility. Over time, these behaviors become habits, but not without first paying, and quite expensive, for a few unfortunate comments, actions, mistakes or forgetfulness.
For children to learn to take responsibility is that simple and at the same time that complex, adults are needed who are aware that children's mistakes usually have small consequences for mom and dad, and that these painful experiences prepare them to evaluate with Watch their actions when they get older because they already know that they can have more serious consequences and far from the area of "coverage" of their parents.
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